You were probably as shocked as I was to learn earlier this week that Josh Duggar had been accused of child molestation as a teenager. Since this news became public, Josh has resigned as executive director of the Family Research Council.
Josh’s actions as a 14-year-old boy were inexcusable and wrong. Josh knows that. He and his father had gone to the police at the time of the incidents, Josh and his victims received counseling, and Josh admits and accepts the consequences for his actions.
Once again, before we go any further, let us repeat: Josh was wrong.
Josh was also 14 years old. Is there a point where we say, “You messed up. You were a stupid kid. But you corrected your behavior, turned your life around, and we forgive you. Let’s move on?”
Dare I say it? Very few in the mainstream media – very few – talked about Lena Dunham’s documented molestation of her younger sister. Even less called for any type of repercussions for her actions. So it would seem such forgiveness is completely possible in today’s society. Unless, of course, you’re from a Christian conservative family. Christian conservatives aren’t allowed to mess up or make mistakes.
Earlier today, I tweeted this:
I received many responses along these lines:
The thing is, you guys, they do. By 17-years-old, 48% of teenagers have had sex. One out of every three teenage girls gets pregnant before the age of 20. And it doesn’t count as consent just because you’re both under 18. Twenty-six and a half percent of 15-19-year-old girls are giving birth to kids – and those are just the ones that aren’t having abortions. And 17% of those births are to unwed mothers who already have at least one other child!
Yes, Josh Duggar was wrong. Stupid, dead wrong. Wrong.
Josh admits his wrong. He’s cleaned up his act.
Is the answer to teenage failure, “OFF WITH THEIR HEAD!” because of something someone did when they were 14-years-old? Kids are stupid. Not all, but most are. Do we not have any grace whatsoever… or is it that pointing at someone else’s sin – especially if it’s someone from a family with *gasp* standards! – makes us feel better about our own?
I also tweeted this today:
And got lots of this in return:
Do we not understand what was happening in the “first stone” story? A woman was caught in the very act of adultery – which in Jesus’ culture was justifiably punishable by stoning. Jesus didn’t say, “If you’ve never committed adultery, pelt her now, as hard as you can!” Nope. It was if you’re without sin. Without any sin.
Sin is sin is sin. If it’s wrong, it’s wrong. Consequences are a different ball game. Consequences are world’s apart for lying than for murder, for example. Josh Duggar’s sin is most likely different from yours and will have different consequences – which he’s accepting – but let’s not forget that he’s a fallible human being.
I never molested any kids or shot anybody or did drugs, but guess what? I’m still a fallible human being. I’ve made mistakes. I can’t throw that “without sin” stone. Can you? Honestly?
One final thought: Do you want the world to judge you based on your teenage years, or on the person you are today? And if it’s the latter, are you willing to have the same consideration for other people… even if their last name is Duggar?
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